In today’s society which emphasizes equal rights, individualism and self, the biblical teaching of submission or living a submissive life runs counter cultural. Submissiveness has to do with the attitude of the heart. The gentle and quiet spirit that flows through the heart will give a genuine submission. Submission also has to do with place and ranking. The Bible clearly states that the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. Therefore, a wife is to show respect to the husband for the position of leadership God has given him.
Submission involves an attitude of respect and a recognition of the responsibility of the one in authority. Rather than trying to thwart his will through manipulation or scheming, a submissive wife will seek to discover what her husband wants and do it to please him, as long as it doesn’t involve disobedience to God.
There is no submission needed when the husband and wife agree on something. Submission is only required when you have a different opinion, thought or course of action over certain issues that does not violate biblical values, principles and where lives are not endangered. Therefore, instead of quarreling or insisting that she is right, the wife who chooses to submit and remain quiet in support of the husband’s decision is blessed. In fact, when you choose to submit, and the outcome reveals to your husband that what you were thinking was right, then he will probably learn to listen to you and ask for your opinion in future. This is how you can win him over through the quiet and gentle spirit rather than through strife and quarrels.
Sermon Series: Divorce Paper